Soon we will be halfway through the first month of the year. What progress have you made on that resolution you committed to at Midnight on 31st December?
Perhaps it is a resolution you have made before (numerous times in fact!). Typical resolutions to get fit, lose that extra stone (or two), be more organised, make that leap forward in work or your business, the list is endless. Have you ever wondered why we make a resolution one year and then end up making the same one the next year or even at various points during the year? Why do we know where we want to be but just can’t seem to get there?
Which part of your mind is in charge?
Sometimes it feels like there are two parts to us; a rational part which knows what is good for us and an irrational part which seems to get in our way, sabotage us and generally not support us in achieving what we want in life. Well, if it feels that way that is because it is pretty much true. Our mind does have two very distinct parts, the conscious and subconscious mind. The conscious part of your mind is the part that says “My resolution is to lose weight and I really want it. I can see all the benefits on my health and how I will look.” But, the reason that is not always enough is that the conscious part of our minds is the smaller part and can so easily be overwhelmed by the bigger and more powerful subconscious.
So, you may be wondering, why your subconscious mind does not seem to want the best for you all the time. Well, it does in so many ways. The fact that you know many things about how to keep yourself safe like not to step out in front of a moving vehicle or eat mouldy food is all stored in your subconscious mind. If you had to consciously think about all these things every day, you probably wouldn’t last very long. In addition, our subconscious mind contains all the learning we have done about how to do things such as driving, writing and reading. So much of what you do is done subconsciously, is it a surprise that some of your negative behaviours also happen subconsciously without the conscious you appearing to be in control.
As well as picking up the helpful things mentioned above and many others which keep you safe and functioning, your subconscious mind has also picked up beliefs about you and the world you live in that are not always helpful. For example, at some point as a child, you may have been directly told something about yourself like “You are stupid, fat or ugly”. If you were told things like these enough times, with enough emotion and by someone you held in high esteem like a parent, sibling, peer or teacher, there is a good chance it will have stuck. So, in simple terms, imagine that your subconscious mind has picked up the belief that you are fat. Every time you get close to being ‘not fat’ i.e. ‘slim’, your subconscious mind will rebel like a petulant teenager and undermine the positive changes you may have made in your behaviour to ensure you go back to where you belong, a fat person. I am sure I am not the only one who has eaten a bar of chocolate, had no idea why you have done it and then felt awfully guilty afterwards.
The Status Quo
This may mean that your New Year’s Resolution already feels like a dim and distant idea that has quickly faded away. Your subconscious mind does not want you to change and sometimes it may feel like it will do just about anything to keep the status quo.
But, all is not lost. There are things you can do to begin the rewiring process and start persuading your subconscious mind to let go and allow you to pursue your resolutions for 2018.
Read more about Gratitude (click here to read the blog) and Affirmations (click here to read the blog) to see how you can help rewire your subconscious mind to be on the same side as your conscious mind and therefore find the motivation to go where you want to go in life.