Have you said “thank you” today? Have you expressed gratitude for anything in your life? Have you noticed some things that make you feel glad to be alive?
“Well I’ve been very busy” you may reply. “I have got a lot on my mind, a lot going on ….”
So …… Have you had a moan today? Have you complained about something/someone? Have you noticed something that is not right in your life?
If you have found time for one, why haven’t you found time for the other?
Perhaps it is because one is actually much easier than the other!
As human beings, we are fairly hardwired to look for the negative in our lives. Our ancestors would not have survived very long if they had not been programmed to watch out for danger at every turn.
So, looking out for danger is part of our programming, but now that we don’t need to watch out for an oncoming saber toothed tiger on our local high street, there are definitely many benefits to developing a more positive, gratitude based way of thinking.
“The more you notice to be grateful for, the more you will have to be grateful for” – Clare Downham (Yes! Me!). This really is true! As you begin to notice positive things and reasons to say “thank you”, your brain wiring will change and you will develop a more positive way of thinking and therefore naturally notice things to be grateful for. You have to put some effort in to start but it soon becomes a natural way of thinking.
So, as you go through your daily life, what kind of things could you be saying “thank you” for?
The answer is anything and everything.
Imagine waking up and starting your day by saying thank you for your bed, the roof over your head, your breakfast or even the fact that you are still here (where as some people may not be).
And as you go through your day, notice green lights, parking spaces somewhere busy, a smile from a stranger and say “thank you” in your head or even out loud every time you notice something good has happened. This is a great way to start grateful thought but then you can up level it even further and start noticing things to be grateful for in situations which could be easily viewed as negative. For example on a rainy day (in July) be grateful for the wonderful greenery around you which needs the rain or just be grateful for the water itself (some people around the world would love the rain we take for granted and moan about).
This is a great way to start grateful thinking but then you can up level it even further and start noticing things to be grateful for in situations which could be easily viewed as negative. For example on a rainy day (in July) be grateful for the wonderful greenery around you which needs the rain or just be grateful for the water itself (some people around the world would love the rain we take for granted and moan about).
If you are stuck in traffic, be grateful for the time to think, listen to the radio or enjoy an audio book. You can do nothing about the traffic jam, it is outside your control so focus on anything you can which feels positive and that you can be thankful for.
And the magic of this really is scientific. The more you think positively and express gratitude every day, the more your brain will rewire to think this way.
See if you can find 5 things to be grateful for today and try increasing it by one thing every day.
And if you really are struggling to think positively, get in touch, hypnotherapy can help!