A very British perspective!
If you cannot control it let it go
Here are my 6 top tips to let go of control to feel less stressed
Work out where the need to control is coming from.
Often, the need to control things comes from a deep-rooted fear. You might have developed an inability to trust or a fear of the unknown. Knowing where the need to control comes from will help you to let go of it.
Imagine what it will feel like to let go
Think about how quiet your head will be when those thoughts of control are gone. Think about what trusting the outcome will feel like. Will letting go of the control make much difference to the outcome? If not, let it go.
Live in the present
Quite often we try to control outcomes in the future. You might want a particular conversation to have a certain conclusion or want a journey to go a particular way. If you bring yourself back into the present, you can have some control. You can control the thoughts you have, the actions you take and how you feel right now. The future is way outside our circle of control – leave it there and get to it in good time.
Focus on what you do have control over
As stated above, you are in control of you. Your feelings, your thoughts, your actions, your decisions. This actually gives you an awful lot more power than you might think. Be grateful for this power you have and use it. No-one can make you feel anything. That’s where you are in control if you choose to be.
If you are trying hard to control outcomes, people and things in your life you are often disappointed by how things turn out. Being flexible about what a satisfactory outcome is will decrease disappointment in your life. You will then feel less need to control what happens.
During the years since the nervous breakdown I suffered in 2015, I have learnt to trust more. This is because the life I am living now is so much more amazing than I could have imagined whilst I was ill. You have never been sent anything in life that you couldn’t handle so trust that will be the case in the future too. We are all stronger than we think.
Breathing doesn’t just help bring you into the present but it is also a great way to let go. One of my favourite techniques is to breathe in and say ‘let’ in your head. Then breathe out and say ‘go’. Keep doing this until you feel your mind quieten and your body feels calmer.